Monday, October 8, 2012

Quilts of the Past: Jane's Wedding Ring

I'm continuing to participate in the "31 for 21" blogging challenge to raise awareness of Down syndrome this month.  However, there's really just so much I can say about Down syndrome, and while digging around for cute pictures of my daughter from her early years I found this quilt I've never shared with the blog world.  So hey!  Easy Monday entry.  And for the first time in a couple of weeks I have something to share with the Design Wall Monday, even if it's 12 years old.

My college friend Jane got married in the fall of 2000, the last of our group of friends to tie the knot.  This is the second Wedding Ring quilt I made using John Flynn's book, which I highly recommend.  Someday I'm really going to make one for Steve and me.  But anyway, Jane's colors were blues and peach, so I had a great deal of fun piecing it because I love those colors too!  I can't remember much about the quilting process, but it was on my trusty old Viking that I still have... it was long before I had the Megaquilter.  I do remember spraying it with water to get the water-soluble blue marks off afterwards.  Binding a double wedding ring quilt is time-consuming... this was before 9-11 so I took it with me in a bag on the plane, along with my little needlework scissors.  I had a layover without having to change planes midway through, maybe at St. Louis.  The gentleman on the aisle seat also stayed on all the way through D.C., and the scissors came in handy when his lunch had a bag that wouldn't open.  I put the last stitches in on the binding about an hour before landing at Reagan National.

That was the first time I'd been away solo from the kids and Steve.  I called home the first day and Secundus had stuck some keys in a power outlet.  That was back in his danger-toddler days.  My friends were struck by overhearing my side of the conversation: "Did he electrocute himself?!"  He didn't. 

Sunday, October 7, 2012

"Sweet and Loving"

I'm continuing to blog in the "31 for 21" challenge to raise awareness about Down syndrome this month.  When our daughter was born we were told that we would get tired of hearing the stereotype "They're so sweet and loving!"  But you know, sweet and loving is not a bad way to be, and when mostly happy goes along with it, a mom can't really complain.  Maybe that's why, after a few months of sadness for what might have been, I fairly quickly came to the point of seeing her birth as one of the best things that ever happened to me, and I haven't looked back much.  This picture reminds me of those busy days of therapy, when we fitted her booster chair with duct-taped rolled-up magazines so she couldn't slump over.

Saturday, October 6, 2012

Randomday

Randomday.  When I can finally put this on the blog.  Ever feel like your week was like this?  And where is the ball, anyway?

The accreditation team is coming to inspect all the teachers next week.  I may have mentioned it once or twice before.  I'm a little nervous.  My sister Beth is coming too, for her once yearly visit.  I bought buttons to sew on her orange sweater.  Tertia helped me pick them out.  Secundus has another cross country meet and daily practice, and I'll be turning 45.  And I've started going to a chiropractor... daily headaches were just getting to be too much.  I've got a new pillow.  Now, that was a random paragraph.

I really like John Sununu.  If you haven't seen this clip with Andrea Mitchell yet, it's one of the funniest things I've seen all week.



If analysis of President Obama's lackluster debate performance isn't your thing, check out the laser printer ad that Moth Heaven has on her blog.  Icelandic knitting!  Real Iceland scenery!

I wish I were doing more knitting.  I didn't finish my September shawl yet, and I've been asked to test-knit a shawl for Melinda Vermeer from my knitting group... using some of my handspun.  I can't describe how much I want to do this, but I keep getting snagged for other things.  Boring things like grading, paperwork, cooking and cleaning.  Actually, not so much of the cleaning.  Unless it's my classroom.  Do you have any idea how many kleenexes I have to pick up off the floor when the 7th grade leaves?

My quilting is only slightly better. I'm attaching the binding to the Log Cabin quilt.  There is a large pile of ironing awaiting me, and one of the ways I can entice myself to do it is promising myself to sew a seam or two between shirts.  I should really try this.

Our grapes are ready for harvest.  We have some lovely seedless ones, and I want to make a batch of Concord Grape Pie filling for the freezer.  Steve has been making homemade applesauce every week, but it's a big production.

And that's all the random for now.



Friday, October 5, 2012

Our Cheerleader

While looking for some older photos to share during the 31 for 21 blogging challenge, I came across this one from 2000.  It's amazing how some things don't change.  Well, our carpet isn't as clean.  And she's bigger.  Same personality though.

Thursday, October 4, 2012

Digging in the Backyard

Steve was moving the compost pile a few weekends back, and Quarta was helping him.  She got very dirty, but she made a little tunnel in the compost pile.  Another potential civil engineer in the making!
We've been having a lovely Indian summer in the Northwest.  So glad the rains haven't started yet. Unfortunately the various cold and stomach viruses have started working their way around the school population.  It makes it challenging trying to get students caught up after an absence.  Work crews came to dig the foundation for the new portable classroom building this week, and they're going to pour the slab soon I think.  Next week is the visit of the accreditation committee, and all teachers are under strict instructions to present our most stunning lesson plans.  Nothing must go wrong.  Must not get sick.  But stay relaxed and confident!

Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Summer tomato salad

I'm participating in the 31 for 21 challenge, but they say you don't have to blog about Down syndrome every day and today is one of those busy days and yesterday's post took a long time and I've been waiting to share this photo for a week, so here goes:

I can never have enough of this salad.  When the tomatoes are finally ripe, I cut some of them up, together with about an equal amount of peeled cucumbers.  Red onion is nice, but I had a leek so I used it here.  And sweet basil leaves are a must... although I usually chop them.  Drizzle with olive oil, balsamic vinegar, and sprinkle with salt and maybe a little freshly ground pepper.  The only problem is it was too big for the bowl.

It was a busy day today and we finally redeemed our coupons for the Mexican restaurant that we got at the auction last May.  I'll relate one little cute story about Tertia* before signing off... we were ushered in and asked if we would need any kids' menus.  She stated, "I'm 13 now," and that was the end of kids' menus for her!  She ordered a taco salad.  And said "Gracias!" every time the waiter came to our table.  She knows how it should be done!



* blogname for my 3rd daughter, the one with Down syndrome.

Tuesday, October 2, 2012

Political Tuesdays: Down Syndrome, Infanticide, and American Public Policy

Four generations, Spring, 2000.  My daughter was supposed to be born on her great-grandmother's birthday, but she came early, September 26.  My birthday is October 11, my mother's October 12, and my grandmother's was October 8.

When my grandmother was a girl, in rural Ohio in the 1920's, she said she thought there was a family with a child with Down syndrome somewhere in her county.  "I suppose they just kept him at home, quietly," was her remembrance.  If so, the child was fortunate.  During that time of the Eugenics movement and for a long time afterwards, children with Down syndrome were known as "Mongoloid idiots" and were routinely signed over to large state institutions at birth.  There, subject to untold abuse and neglect, they lived out their usually short, sad lives.  Very few Americans were really aware of such institutions at all, because disabilities, particularly mental disabilities, were seen as shameful.  There was no such thing as informed consent; individuals with disabilities were routinely sterilized, and there was no attempt to educate them or integrate them with society.  As bad as it was in America, we of course stopped short of the widespread atrocities in Nazi Germany, although the lack of scrutiny received by these institutions insured that bad conditions here would last far longer.

When my mother was a girl, she was a big fan of Roy Rogers and Dale Evans.  They had a child with Down syndrome, and defied societal expectations by not institutionalizing her, and even wrote a book about her short life, Angel Unaware.  Although her life was short, she had the benefit of being very much loved and accepted in her family.  Institutionalization was still the silent norm for most Americans with disabilities.  There was a strong, unwritten expectation that people with disabilities should not intrude on the public consciousness.  This expectation was most likely from both sides of the political spectrum, which was far less polarized then than it is now.  The people of America were decent, well-intentioned folks, but they disliked to be disturbed.

When I was growing up, people with Down syndrome were no longer routinely institutionalized, and great strides were being made in education and inclusion.  Yet paradoxically, the highest-profile case of Down syndrome I ever heard about involved the infanticide of a newborn child at the parents' wish-- an atrocity so much worse than anything I had encountered in America before that it left a deep and lifelong impression.  It was the case of Baby Doe in Bloomington, Indiana in 1982.  He needed relatively minor surgery to allow him to eat, but his own parents refused the surgery, presumbably because of his Down syndrome diagnosis.  The child slowly starved to death surrounded by the best medical technology in the richest country of the world, despite thousands of offers to adopt him.  Anyone who has ever heard Steve Taylor's haunting song can never forget it:



So the unthinkable became thinkable, and our country was further polarized, gradually reaching the point where prenatal tests for Down syndrome have become standard and abortion rates approach 90%.  And although both my grandmother and mother both started out as populist Democrats, they both reached a point later in life (my mother earlier than my grandmother) where they realized that the Democratic party no longer represented their concerns as Christians.  Political allegiances are complicated and I'm not trying to strongarm anyone into changing theirs, but in my experience, it was impossible to reconcile the conflict between the Democratic party's official policy of abortion on demand for any reason, and the desire of all decent human beings to do the right thing for vulnerable individuals.  Baby Doe was one of those moments for both my mom and me.  I remember at least one conversation where we both agreed we would be willing to adopt a child with Down syndrome, to save it from a fate like that.

Five years before my daughter was born, Al Gore made his little "extra-chromosome right wing" remark.  I remember looking up from unloading the dishwasher in shock when that came over the radio.  "If I had a child with Down syndrome that would be so offensive..."  It's another one of those semi-prophetic moments I look back on now.

I've had good people, well-educated and some with medical degrees, ask me why I even mention infanticide and abortion in connection with Down syndrome.  The implication is, "You love and want your child, you would never do this, so why concern yourself about what others choose?"  Well, for the same reason that John Donne said "ask not for whom the bell tolls."  Every time a child with a mental disability is denied basic human rights because of her mental disability, don't you think it affects the entire community?  Don't you think it makes it that much harder to gain recognition for the real needs associated with this diagnosis?  The desire to pretend that the intentional genocide of people with a particular disability is not happening is strong... it helps us feel better about ourselves and the country we live in.  It's less disturbing that way.  But it's not right, and it's not true.

Infanticide of newborn children with Down syndrome, and other disabilities, still happens.  The congressional testimony of Jill Stanek tells of an incident in 2001 at the terribly mis-named Christ Hospital in Illinois.  At this hospital, more often than you'd think, late-term abortions were performed by a method that allowed the fetus to be born alive, although very premature.  At this point, the infants, already born, were left to die.  More often than you'd think, this took hours.  It was hard on the nurses, to say the least.

At both the federal and the state level, a Born Alive Infants Protection Act was introduced to provide the smallest measure of legal protection to a child like this.  There was overwhelming support for this legislation.  But on three separate occasions, while an Illinois state senator, Barack Obama voted against it.  This is why you will hear (although never in the mainstream media) the charge of "supporting infanticide" leveled against the President.  Although he has tried, he has not been able to refute it.  And this is a fundamental reason why, no matter how "likeable" the President may be, I could not in good conscience support him.

Again, it would be a fair charge to say that I am "personalizing" the political issue.  I'd have to plead guilty.  This is very personal to me.  My daughter's birth did change the way I look at things.  I need to be more vigilant with her than with my other children, just to protect her and make sure she develops the skills she will need in life.  To have one class of people with Down syndrome, loved and wanted and included in society -- I think we all agree that this is a good thing.  But to have a secondary class, discriminated against solely because of their disability and status of being unwanted -- this is unconscionable in a society that values human rights.